What’s in a name? Defining feminine and masculine at our second meeting

The Museum of Modern Art

The Museum of Modern Art (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

At our second meeting on 13 September we at last got cracking on the basic strokes for frame drum with exotic names Doum, Tak and Ka (not to mention Tak’s little brother Tek). We also learnt about the wealth of talent and life experience within the group. Guitarists, midwives, singers and Morris Dancers are loud and proud.

Two of our male members had experienced strong, creative and rational feminine presence in their lives – both in the form of their female relatives and as the longing toward music, dance, tradition and myth within themselves.

We have agreed that just because a person might be biologically female, it does not mean she’s closer to the Sacred Feminine.

Our main discussion was on the difference(s) between men and women – if such a thing (things) even exist. Two members had read the book  Why Men Don’s Listen and Women Can’t read Maps by Allan and Barbara Pease. It described multiple experiments carried on men’s and women’s brains, which produced data that shows that men and women are hardwired differently. You can watch a talk by Alan Pease here.

Another insightful and funny talk can be found here. It is called “The Happy Wife” and the speaker differentiates between men and women on the basis that “women are relationship beings, men are NOT”.

At the same time, many people now argue that perhaps divining human beings into two genders only is obsolete and a feature of controlling patriarchal society.  No-Nonsense Guide to Sexual Diversity by Vanessa Baird, for instance, deals with the wealth of human sexuality, as well as with the fact of inter sex people, who are many. Ava Park, Director of Goddess Temple of Orange County in her interview for Karen Tate‘s The Voices of the Sacred Feminine mentions 5 genders that are recognised in a traditional culture in Indonesia. There is also this interesting resource proposing a classification of 63 genders.

Back to differences, Gail McMeekin, who wrote 12 Secrets of Highly Creative and Successful Women, in her interview for Karen Tate‘s The Voice of the Sacred Feminine mentioned an interesting difference between women and men, when it comes to creativity. Gail McMeekin told that once at her workshop a man approached her asking this question and she asked him: “When you write your poetry, do you worry about whether your child has a gift to bring to a birthday party, or about having to ring your Mom, or to visit a friend at a hospital?” He said – absolutely not. Whereas women, of course, do that. I had to laugh – as only a couple of days ago I spent two days crocheting a toy as a birthday gift for my daughter’s friend. How many poems could I have written?

Jean Shinoda, MD talks about a Jungian vision to save the planet  on Shrink Rap Radio in this interview. She shares her vision of “tree people” – people for whom tress are beings, living on this planet on par with human beings. Treating a woman as commodity, as something that provides sexual pleasure, labour and children is the same perspective that sees only lumber in trees. She also mentions that micro-loans schemes around the majority world now loan 95 percent to women, as their experience shows that women tend to spend the money on providing for the family, whereas men tend to spend the money on luxury products to impress other men.

Discussion and drumming will continue.

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